Catching up

It feels like I’ve been playing catch up for the last 18 months but to start with lets do catch up of the last few weeks. This pleasant chap above is Melvin, he was my Halloween pumpkin this year. I have come late to this seasonal treat and last year was the first year I did one. We aren’t really big on Halloween here in England, and whilst I am not sure if I really ever want Trick or Treaters banging on my door a glowing pumpkin is a more than welcome addition.

This is Melvin on the left and Paul on the right. I have this childlike habit of having to name everything. When we were little everything used to be Fred, I never really knew why. Last year’s pumpkin was Fred and this year somehow Melvin called to me. G carved Paul, his very first effort in this area. He is called Paul because he is poor, Poor Poor Paul because he was jealous of Melvin’s sideburns.

The the weekend after Halloween we had a wedding to go to. Good friends of our from G’s school. And as all you ladies out there will know a wedding doesn’t simply just happen even if you are just a guest. So there were weekends of hen parties, shopping and beautifying all of which means that I haven’t felt as though I have had a proper weekend for weeks.

I’m not complaining though. 18 months ago G and I were going through a bit of a dry spell friend wise. G was back at college studying for his teaching degree which meant a distinct lack of finances and at twenty something if you don’t have the cash then the friends seem to fall by the wayside. Either that or we just didn’t have very good friends to start with! We have been really lucky with his school and college though. We seem to have found a new circle. A group that are on our wavelength, what an awful phrase! But I can’t think of any other way to describe it. We are all at a similar stage in our lives, grown-ups but not quite believing that we are there yet. I still get flashes at restaurants when we are out when I wonder when they are going to throw us out for being young. The same thing happened at the wedding. We were checking in at the hotel and I kept expecting some to laugh and say don’t be silly where are your parents! It was a gorgeous lovely day. Lots of tears during the ceremony, the hope and the belief at weddings always overwhelms me. That and the idea that I am special enough to them to be there and share it. Awesome, awe inspiring. Lots of tears during the speeches too, although that may have been more the wine than the emotion that tipped me over the edge!

It was also the first wedding that G and I had been to where we both knew the couple in question and a fair amount of the guests. It felt like we belonged, like we had finally caught up to a place in life where we were meant to be. Not quite students and not quite adults, but definitely on the cusp of it.

Much like these two. On the edge of a whole new life together. Congratulations Kerry and Giles.